Tips and hints to SUCCEED in ONLINE DATING! (Meet INTERESTING PEOPLE)

On this post I’ll be talking about dating apps! Maybe you’re already using some, or you are considering to start, so I’ll give you some tips and hints that might help you to improve your chances of meeting interesting people on this kind of platform!

I’ve met a lot of people that have the preconceived idea that whoever uses dating apps, is just looking for casual fun, and that’s not true! These apps are tools that can help you to meet people that you normally wouldn’t, and as any other tool, it will depend how you use it!

Some people met the love of their lives and others didn’t like it at all, but you cannot give an opinion if you haven’t tried it yet. That would be like talking about a food that you haven’t eaten!

Now, if you are afraid of judgments, just keep in mind that they reflect the limitations of the people that are judging you, they don’t reflect who you are! Plus, if you are an independent grown up, what you do with your life is your own business, you don’t owe explanations to anyone else!

Now that I got all the misconceptions out of the way, let’s go for the hints and tips!

Choosing the Pictures

If you are afraid of being seen, you have to get over it! If you are willing to use a dating app, you will have better chances if you show your face and put your best pictures there.

I would say that you need to upload at least 2 photos showing your face, including your eyes, and two more pictures showing your full body. Have you ever heard that the eyes are the window to the soul? They reveal the person’s state of being, so pay attention on people’s pictures as well and isolate their eyes to find out how they feel.

Upload at least four pictures to show that is really you. A lot of people get fake pictures from models on the internet, when this happens, there are a maximum of two or three pictures, and they look professional. If you observe this, be careful because it’s probably not the person.

Choose pictures that show things that you like to do, like hobbies for example, and pay attention to people’s pictures as well to find out what is their lifestyle before you meet them.

The more pictures, the better! It’s a great way to show your personality, which will increase your changes to meet someone compatible. It’s amazing how these dating apps can teach you to “read” people using very little information!

Writing the Bio

You have a very short space to be straightforward and honest about what you are looking for, so use this space wisely! Don’t leave it empty, don’t use a quote, avoid to write the thinks that you don’t want because this will make you look like a negative person, and do your best not to appear desperate for a relationship.

Usually people don’t like it because it gives the impression that you will suffocate them as soon as you meet. I spoke about desperation in my post about red flags, so click here to read and understand better why it can be a very alarming sign.

If you cannot think about a good bio, just write something like “I’m here to meet new people and if the connection is good, I might delete this app”, or just write what’s your intention.

You will find out pretty quickly that most people on these apps are very direct, and don’t be shocked if you find people who write things like:

I’m married
I just want to have fun, nothing serious
I’m a “sugar daddy”
We are a couple looking for someone to have fun
I just want to make friends

As I mentioned before, it’s a tool and people will use it in different ways, so just skip the profiles that are not compatible with what you are looking for and prefer the ones that are more aligned with what you want.

First Messages

Your profile is complete and you start to have matches, the same tips I gave you to build a good profile, use them to read people’s profile as well and chose the most interesting ones. And the next step is to start communicating with them.

If you decide to send the first message, avoid to write only one or two words because it doesn’t leave room for a proper conversation. If you write something like “Hi! How are you?”, probably the answer will be “good and you?”, see, it’s hard for the conversation to flow!

Also you don’t want to put a lot of effort and energy writing a whole letter because you don’t even know if the person will reply. If you want to grab the person’s attention, you need to send an interesting first message. I recommend you to chose something that you liked in the person’s profile and write a comment about it!

Avoid conversations that resemble jobs interview because is super boring, you know when the chat follows this kind of script:

Where do you live?
What do you do?
What did you study?
What do you do on weekends?
What are your intentions for a relationship?

If you want to meet interesting people, you have to be and act like one as well. An interesting conversation is not about the things that you do everyday, it’s about your passions and hobbies, about the things that make you unique and special, and a good way to figure this is to talk about books, activities and interests.

First Date

The person passed all your tests, nice photos, nice bio, nice conversation… and now it’s time to meet!

For your own safety, chose a public place for the first date. Might be a cafeteria, a restaurant or, if you have a common interest, you might do some sort of activity together. Any place that offers a good ambient to talk, will work!

Avoid noisy places, like cinema or nightclubs, because you want to take the opportunity to get to know the person better, so you need to interact and talk as much as you can!

To date is a skill that, to be developed, requires a lot of trials and errors. Takes time and practice to figure out what works for you.

Dating apps can be super fun and you can meet very nice people through them. The good part about meeting people this way, is to learn about yourself, what works for you, what you like and so on. This will give you more clarity to identify what’s the right type of person for you.

Do you know the saying, until you meet the right person, you have fun with the wrong ones? So, keep on practicing to improve your relationship skills, and at some point you meet someone that fits well at your side.